Thursday, September 19, 2013

Duct Taped and Holding




Last night I was bent over dad’s legs trying to fasten a wide elastic strap.  It was a feeble attempt to keep his paralyzed leg from flopping sideways.  Normally once mom gets him in his electric chair, she sticks this homemade paddle type device in a bracket that keeps his leg in place.  After a long series of unrelated chaos the last week, though, mom was exhausted.  She misplaced the paddle yesterday afternoon. Translated means, she probably put the paddle on top of the car roof after wedging his body back in for a ride to the lawyer's office.  She was on time for our appointment to sign papers, but I’m pretty sure the paddle landed somewhere between their house and Main Street in Forney.

I was going over there anyway last night to get them packed for the hospital. He has bladder stones, a common but icky complication of permanent catheters.  The procedure is supposed to be outpatient, but last time he was in three days. So I showed up to pack supplies for the worst scenario, and reassured mom that I had everything under control.

After lining the suitcases along the wall, mom and I scavenged around the shop looking for anything we could use to create a "paddle” for dad’s leg.  He didn’t care about the packing, surgery, or mom’s need to sleep.  He just wanted something to keep his leg from flopping so he could maneuver through the doorways..  I grabbed a dowel rod and mother got an old cutting board and roll of duct tape.  I ignored Dad's attempt to send me back out to the shop to get clamps.  I had no time for his woodworking finesse.  Lydia needed a shower, Andrew needed sinus meds to stall a looming infection. Plus, I hadn’t even seen Tommy except to meet him the previous afternoon at an oral surgeon’s office for Andrew's consult.  And that followed an early morning emergency visit to Lydia’s orthodontist. 

My life consists of schedules and needs that are spilling over in sloppy, inconvenient messes.  And like the duct taped paddle, this morning it feels like I’m just barely holding things together. But…things are holding for now. Their air conditioner was newly installed, dad’s foot wasn’t broken in the wreck, and months of work on their legal affairs are nearly completed. Mom’s appointment with the heart doctor is scheduled, and Dad is heading into surgery this morning.  Yes, I suppose holding together, albeit with duct tape is better than not isn’t it?

God, please make my migraine go away. Let me be kind and gracious today.  Keep me from snapping at nurses and doctors who ask us for the millionth time “does he have any health issues or past surgeries” (duh!).  Let me be patient, slow to getting pissed off, and thankful for the less obvious blessings.  Above all, fill me with your love so that I won’t have regrets at the end of the day.







2 comments:

  1. I am so glad that Presby now has all records online so there is no more repetition of this when she goes in. I am feeling your pain of frustration right now. Prayers for you and there is hope you could find the paddle. Randy put our son's wedding album that I had spent at least $100 on and many hours finishing on the top of the car and drove off. Didn't discover it until we got to Scurry from Dallas. When we got home he began scouring the street on foot. He finally found the box with tire tracks on it. He decided to knock on the door and sure enough they had thrown it away but it was sitting pretty on top of the rest of the garbage. Randy lived to tell another tale.

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  2. Thank you Gloria. That hurts to think about the wedding album flying off of the car! Poor Randy:( We are Baylor patients but things went really well today. We were treated as though we mattered. From the man that helped get us parked to the orderlies, nurses, techs, registration, it was like the Lord covered us and everyone we came in contact with. I cried some after we got him home, partly relief but mostly just realizing how much God cares. When we think we just can't take one more step, He is there. And today He made His presence known in ways that were unmistakeable, through people who were willing to be used by Him. I am still just in awe.

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